Well, people, we’ve discussed the Top Ten Ways How NOT to Spoil Your Husband, let’s create an equal opportunity moment and look ways how the husband can destroy the relationship! Sometimes a little sarcasm goes a long way. Read and learn!

1. Buy her a nightie, and when she tries it on, say it “doesn’t look too bad.”
2. Buy a fixer-upper of a house, then confess you don’t know how to fix anything.
3. Tell your buddies her facial hair shaving techniques.
4. Talk about finances right before bedtime.
5. Be oblivious to your children who are screaming and fighting next to you while you are watching TV.
6. Never pitch in with dinner preparations.
7. Talk about your new, young secretary… all week long.
8. Buy her a beautiful gold choker necklace that’s too small, and tell her “well, it looked great on the jewelry salesgirl.”
9. Remodel the bathrooms to have no tubs, only shower stalls.

And now for the #1 way how not to spoil your wife…

1. Casually mention that DNA paternity test kits will soon be available at drugstores.

Whoa! Ouch!

OK, that was all in good jest, BUT there is much to be gleaned from that list! Understanding how to spoil your lady shouldn’t be mysterious. Just don’t EVER EVER do those things in this list, and stay tuned for some great spoiling ideas in the next Top Ten list– how you can REALLY spoil your wife.

I’m sure we’ve all experienced this after working out in the gym or finishing a tough days worth of yard work, or even painting a room in your house. This type of activity is followed by a need to relax and a desire for a message or muscle relaxer. Well, when neither of those options will occur, how about a nice warm bath.

So, here’s my idea on how to spoil your spouse in this scenario.

When you see your spouse, or significant other doing any kind of work that is going to result in them being so physically tired that a nice warm bath would benefit them, these are the simple steps you can take to make them feel that, not only is the work they accomplished appreciated, but they are deserving of being spoiled.

1. Rinse the dust out of the bathtub and wipe down the edges so it’s all sparkly clean.
2. Fix (or order take out) a lovely meal for them to eat when they’re done so they can get nourishment after all their hard work.
3. Immediately following the meal, run a nice hot bath (with bubbles is nice) for them in the newly sparkling clean tub.
4. Light a few candles and set them around the tub.
5. Place a few magazines and even their favorite book near the tub for them to read as they’re relaxing.
6. Lead them into the tub area and then walk away, allowing them to relax and enjoy the time they have in the newly candle lit, sparkling tub.
7. While they are soaking, clean up the kitchen so that it too becomes sparkly.
8. Poor a glass or two of wine and take it in to the person soaking in the tub. Enjoy a glass yourself.

The result of all of this effort is that your spouse or significant other is going to feel 100% appreciated and 100% spoiled. Nice job!

I must not be dropping enough hints to my husband, because you know what I would really love, what would make me feel spoiled? If he would make my coffee on weekend mornings. See, we don’t see eye to eye on what constitutes a “good” cup of coffee. He buys a can of Maxwell House about once a month and uses it until it is gone, even after the grounds have started to get bitter smelling. ICK.

I, on the other hand, discovered Boca Java coffee about six months ago, and I have never bought anything else since. What first caught my eye was how many different flavors of coffee they sell, and the fun names, like Vacation Villa Vanilla (my son’s favorite), and Lee’s Caramel Kiss Island, “dedicated to Lee Frcek, cherished wife, mother and grandmother, who battled leukemia for thirteen and a half years. A portion of the proceeds from this coffee will be donated to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, which helps thousands of people annually and works toward the development of a cure.”

If your special someone is a coffee lover, Boca Java would make an excellent gift for any occasion. You can arrange for automatic delivery every 2, 3, 4, or 6 weeks, and you get an email ahead of time in case you want to pick a different flavor. Not sure which flavor your sweetie would like best? I highly recommend the Baby Boca packs, which are $2.25 each and 2 ounces of coffee, which makes an 8 cup pot. It’s a great way to try flavors like Surfin’ Safari, which is Vanilla, Kahlua, and Caramel combined (yum!) and their most popular flavored coffee.

Your sweetie doesn’t like flavored coffee? No problem! Boca Java also has great House Blends, from Boca Sunrise, a medium blend with a clean finish, to South Beach Rhythm, which is a smoky, full-body roast. There is also decaf and espresso blends available. Something for everyone!

SO, what would really make me feel spoiled is if my husband would make me a cup of my favorite Boca Java flavor and bring it to me in bed to wake me up! I definitely need to drop some hints-maybe a note stuck to the coffee maker would do the trick

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I had been putting off working on some home repair projects that were in dire need of being finished. The main reason I was putting them off is that I find that if I stop doing my daily household work (i.e., cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.) no other family member is going to do it for me and so, I end up doing twice as much work.

When my husband finally questioned why I wasn’t finishing any of the bigger projects, such as painting the family room walls, I responded that I just wasn’t up to taking on the extra work knowing that I would have to stop in the middle to fix dinner, or do the laundry, or take care of the dog.

It took some convincing, but I do believe he finally understood what I was talking about. He promised to help as long as I did the painting while he wasn’t occupied with work or something else and I agreed. Coordination and cooperation between spouses, that’s the key.

So, this past Sunday, after asking my husband what his plans were for the day, I tackled my painting job. While I was doing that, he cleaned the swimming pool, then came in and started dinner. By the time I was finished cleaning my brushes and putting away the ladder several hours later, dinner was on the table.

You’re probably wondering why I am writing this, but the point of this post is to let everyone know that if couples work together to accomplish things, big or small, they can make each other feel good. I felt such a sense of accomplishment for finally getting the painting done and I didn’t feel stressed about having to stop and make sure dinner was ready. I felt that what I was doing was appreciated by my husband enough for him to want to take over some of my usual duties in order for me to get the job done.

Sometimes, spoiling someone can be as simple as letting them know they’re appreciated.

Sometimes we wives can be so wrapped up in our house duties, jobs, or child-rearing that the husband takes a backseat in our attentions. But your man needs loving just as much– and often more than– that job, the baby, and the laundry! A man needs to feel needed, and thrives when his wife shows respect for him. There’s a tendency in our modern age to focus on the needs of the woman. Women certainly do have needs! But so do the men! Here are some ideas to help you kindle that relationship. The nice thing about it is that the man, when loved and respected, will return the love and respect to his wife. So it’s a win-win situation!

Here are ten easy ways to spoil your husband. Be flexible, too. Just the fact that you pay attention to his likes and dislikes will warm his heart. Remember how you like to be treated, and do likewise!

1. Praise him publicly. Never mock him or ridicule him publicly.
2. Cook a nice dinner at least three times a week. Know what his favorite recipes are, and serve them frequently.
3. Tidy the house before he comes home from work. Wipes the kids’ faces, perk some coffee. Make his homecoming a big deal.
4. When he comes home from work, greet him at the door if you can. Don’t ask him how was his day, but let him shake off the cares in his good time. Offer him coffee or a snack.
5. When he’s feeling particularly stressed out, take the kids out of the house to a park for a while, so he can have some alone “down time.”
6. When he offers some advice or an opinion, don’t dismiss it, even if it isn’t very helpful. Consider his input as you would like him to consider yours.
7. Wear neat, clean clothes and dress up from time to time– just for him.
8. Create a special room or a special area just for him and his hobby. Even if it is an armchair with a lamp and some magazines, make a place that is “his” and do not allow the children in that area.
9. Do not overspend the budget.
10. If you are a stay-at-home mom, don’t make him get up for baby’s nighttime feedings. You can get a nap during the day; he works all day and suffers more from lack of sleep.

Every husband is different, so be creative. Sometimes we can put so much emphasis on a new barbecue grill or an HDTV that we forget the more meaningful things. But it’s the meaningful things make the material gifts all the more precious!

Mother’s Day is fast approaching and chocolate is one of the best ways to a mother’s heart. Someone mentioned today about a lady who said, “When I die, if there’s not chocolate in heaven, then I don’t want to go there.”

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We have all seen the commercials where the long legs of the beautiful actress are used to gain attention to the product being sold. You say you have no idea what product they are selling? That is because, if you are like me, you are looking at the shoes. I absolutely love shoes. I consider shoes a form of art. There are so many shapes of shoes and just thinking of all the different textures gets me excited. If you want to have a fun shopping trip, go together to shop but concentrate on shoes. Try on wild ones. Have fun with it. If my husband wants to spoil me, all he has to do is go with me to the shoe department of my favorite department store. Spoil your wife/husband with a trip to buy new shoes/boots, they will feel special and you’ll love how they look.

Remember that old Beatles’ song, “Can’t Buy Me Love”?

Don’t you believe it.

To a hard-working wife, “stuff” is a wonderful benefit. Yet, guys, come on– we women really don’t want the stuff that gives us more to do– toaster ovens, food choppers, coffeemakers. Those are things we expect. They are part and parcel of the job, ya know? By now you husbands probably have arms up in air, eyes rolling, wondering aloud, “Well then, what?”

Jacuzzi.

Oh yeah. The staff of life. Men, we women want a Jacuzzi.

Maybe you men think we wives have it easy here at home all day. Yeah, right. That’s why you have this insatiable desire to quit your job to stay home with the kids, right? Deep down, you guys know that we women work hard, 24/7. We are always on call. Dirty diapers, health insurance applications, soccer practice, math homework, sick kids, babysitting, cleaning toilets, telemarketers… And it is sometimes very stressful. So unless you husbands are willing to rub our backs all night and work out those tension knots (which isn’t a bad idea, either), what women want is a Jacuzzi. I don’t have one (not yet– still working on it) but someday I’m going to get one. Just the thought of sinking my weary, worrisome carcass into a hot tub of bubbles and fragrance make my heart melt and my eyes glaze over.

You love your wife? Prove it. Get her a Jacuzzi.

My Mother loved daisies. Chris’ Mom liked Forget-Me-Nots. I like pink roses, personally. I had a beautiful bunch of them in my wedding bouquet, and Chris brought them to me in the hospital each time one of the kids was born.

If you don’t know what your wife or girlfriend’s favorite type of flower is, ask! Or, to be less obvious, wait until you are shopping at a store that has an outdoor garden center, steer her in that direction, and pay attention to what kinds of flowers she looks at.

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You don’t need a special occasion to send flowers, you can send them “just because”. Your special lady will feel spoiled by your attention, too.

There are so many ways to say “I love you” without ever saying the words. Have you tried any of these?

Say “I Love You” with food. While making breakfast this weekend, cut heart shapes out of the pancakes or waffles. The kids won’t be the only ones to enjoy the message.

Use time in the car to talk, and don’t forget to listen! Turn down the radio and use the opportunity to let others in the car know you think they’re special. Try phrases like, “I’m glad we’re together” and “I think you’re special”. These words not only tell others that you love them, but also serve to build their self esteem, especially to kids.

Take a walk together. When is the last time you spent time together, just walking? This is a way to not only promote health, but also a feeling of closeness.

Use hand signals or sign language. Every night since our daughter was very little, we’ve blown kisses, crossed our arms over our hearts and given a thumbs up as a way to say “I Love You”. We use these same signals whenever one of us is leaving another, whether it’s to go to school or off on a business trip.

Write a note. Slip a little love note into a lunch bag or briefcase. What a nice surprise to the recipient in the middle of the day! Is your spouse traveling? Send a text message, let them know you’re thinking of them.

Do you have non-verbal ways of saying “I Love You’?